15 posts tagged “men”

New statistics out by a university...worldwide study,..

Least likely to divorce are men and women where women are no more than nine years younger than the man and around the samish age is best. And by the same token women who are now more than two years older than the man.

So that puts paid ot all these theories not so smart older men have about dating and marrying younger women.

Also the quality of men's sperm decrease with age. Women can have kids at any age throuhg to menopuasal..and the quality of eggs doesn't change but they may produce less eggs.

Men!

God give me a guy who is genuine! And everything else to boot!
a bit of maturity,when it counts, would help too~

I decided, last night, I want the fairytale.
I deserve it.I have lived an independent great life and now I want the fairytale.
And that is what a guy is going to have to come in with.The fairytale.

I am sick of these men in NYC with all these excuses for one reason or other,they can or can't or will or won't or whatever it is about anything.

I deserve more,I deserve better.

I've got my life together, at any given point, why can't they?

Hey I've got my life together spiritually,emotionally and physically-I know what's important and how to structure things..so why havent these guys got there yet.

I don't give excuses every five minutes. "The Dow's up,the Dow's down, its raining, the sun is shining, my car doesn't work,my car does work,my clients are in town,my clients aren't in town,my kid is here,my kid isn't here, I lost it in the divorce,I didn't lose it in the divorce,the deals going through,the deal isn't going through, I did do that,I didn't do that...""   Either way it's an excuse.

and sure there are more girls than guys in NYC but still,at the end of the day, thats no excuse for  laziness,shoddy behavior or excuses from men  either. Actions speak louder than words.
 Hey dudes...this is really simple....you either want to figure out stuff with someone or you don't.

I don't give excuse every five minutes..I get on with it.

My life is great on my own.I've worked hard, I'm clean cut, I have no baggage, my life is good, fluid..for a guy to make me pay attention in any way physically and emotionally..he's going to have to come in with the fairytale.
I deserve it.I deserve that.Nothing less. Ive worked hard.

Stone Gossard Plays Webster Hall for The Guthrie Foundation.Check live podcasts at AOL.www.hdsa.org

Tim Robbins - Rebel with a  Cause, Rebel With a Clue ,Rock Star with Attitude

First of all Tim Robbins can sing- kids watch and learn. Secondly - he has got something to say. Whether you agree with what he has to say -Thank God he has the guts to say it. And thank fully we artists can still find venues.I don't have  band or theater stage at present . I guess this humble blog will have to suffice.(I do have  a smaller feature film out www.buddhawild.com)

Steve Earle Plays Webster Hall for the Guthrie Foundation.AOL for Podcasts and www.hdsa.org

I had to skip Billy Bragg (unfortunately, legend since before university days) and make my way  to the Company this night belonged to, and that was of course HUGO BOSS.Thanks to friendly and efficient staff at both events I was able to facilitate both noteworthy events smoothly without any fuss.

Ahh- Funky  Webster Hall with little to no catering  to the lavish and understated elegance of the Cunard Building in Bowling Green for HUGO BOSS.I don't think I have been to such a good party venue in NY since the outrageously flamboyant Spiderman 3 Premiere earlier this year. If I had been able to have all my provocative and fun film colleagues  from the Spiderman 3 Premiere at Hugo Boss tonight I would have been happy as  a pig in mud!Regardless the HUGO BOSS party did not disappoint.

The HUGO BOSS BLACK party  was a party of abundance in a great overflowing  space,part of which later turned into the probably the best nightclub in New York for this particular night .... the wine flowed throughout, the hor'doeuvres were unavoidable and enough to feed an army- they came from every corner of the rooms ,at all times, from oysters and prawns to delicate green indian curries and spices - it was the most generous and stylish party I have been to I think in NY, since Spiderman 3.(although Spiderman 3 was of course larger,huge buffets and totally over the top,just like the parties used to be at Cannes)

The crowd for HUGO BOSS was fashion(not film) and, I am pleased to say, swamped with men of all sorts.All the glamour boys were there and there were  many  others too.I swear it is one of the few parties I have been to where men out numbered women.    Bring it on ! The crowd was hot all round and made up of all age groups .Was it vacuous and frivolous..of course, but this is fashion and this is New York.

Sadly I missed the HUGO BOSS runway show and therefore probably  the whole point as I was busy at Webster Hall saving the planet and being thoughtful and provocative, but I promise to try and get a photo from the runway show itself.

All best Viva LA LIFE!

And remember to buy the Buddha Wild  film off Amazon or www.buddhawild.com

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I have added the details for the Anna Bergman Show in NY this week at the post below.

In terms of the article on men also posted below -I have had many positive responses from girls who simply say "great"!
It has also been surprisingly and refreshingly positive the responses from men in the following article.

One told me in a conversation even before reading the post(I had told him about it) that he thought more men should take responsibility these days(and as I did laid the blame at the feet of both men and females)..and that some girls behaviour is a real shame..He recounted a story of his when he exhibited in Southampton recently.A girl came up to him and said she was  a Victorias Secret Model.She then proceeded to show him shots on her "black berrry" , modelling in lingerie Victorias Secret then showed him 30 more shots of her naked ...then looked at him while she tried to entwine herself further round his body(in front of others)and  said " I will do anything for artists,anything at all"   He took the girl to the back room of the Gallery ,where she thought she was getting more entangled.He took her to  a wall and said "" see that..that's my son and thats my daughter and thats my wife."Goodbye"
Its guys like this that we women admire and there are not enough around.Guys with spine.Guys who know the difference between quality and not.

There are too many guys like the ones mentioned in the post below  who don't know quality and the value of longer lasting connections relationships.Let us counter the above refreshing example of a man with spin  with a response from one of the fellows talked about  in the article below .

The man in the below  post received an equally agressive trashy message on his cell phone from some girl,a complete stranger(through a dating site) when he was on a date with me.He actually  read it when  he was on the date with me,we were with 2 or 3 other people..and I said surely you are not seriously responding-   "Yeah,I'll look at the photo first . I might get laid"    My God are guys that stupid!!!!. Further to that  ,guys like that are so focused on the internet  they dont even see the life around him.They are living off a fantasy of photos.This guy was 46 or 47. I actually had to point out to him that girls like that, send those emails out to everyone and even i get them reguaralyl from girls who think I am a "male"" head of a film company. If he had been smarter  he really could have stood  chance  of getting "laid"-and  with someone far more scintillating. Men are none to bright and my succcessful artist friend was not impressed by tjhis guy who cant see the better  in a real relationship rather than some young crass tart offering"anything" 

Other positive responses to the article included a friend of mine,in his fifities,a bit of a man about town ,who called me up and gently and quietly said 'Anna I didnt know you hated men that much" I said
"I don't..do I come across like that?"...And he said "No not really. I didn t know some of this was going on but I knew things were different ..and even though I like to pick up chicks its a pity guys dont see quality or know the distinction or take responsibility .The internet thing can be pretty disgusting. I like to meet people in person and the last thing I want is  a girl in her twenties who don't have life experience. I'm  a secure guy.I dont need that.Those days went 2 decades ago"

Or as a 49 year old friend smartly and succently said.." why would I date a girl in her twenties-I don't want to raise someone! "

And I will drink to that.Here's to men who know "whats what"  like the Indian one, I met last night, visiting from overseas

In a few days before heading back out to events I am going to post  a review of NYC best kept little secret - a little Caribbean vegetarian  restaurant  which is in the same area where Jodie Fosters THE BRAVE ONE was filmed.
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Where did men go so wrong in the last few years.Yes it has changed  a lot.I've had a proudly happily married guy say to me that.."Its all changed. If I hadnt of got married then,ten years ago -- I question if I would now." And that everything has changed.The world has changed.
So Why? Well in fact part the internet which I will discuss in a minute. I also think, in part, to an odd regressive kick against feminism and HIV that happened  amongst East Coast girls and boys in the past 8 years.Newsweek/Time Magazine  or one of them, did write about this alarming and indeed disturbing social phenomenon that was happening with girls in high schools,private and public, on the East Coast,and presumably beyond.However the article did not discuss why.
The phenomonon was that girls , would compete to see how many "bj's '" they could give in a week or any one night to guys. It was widespread and a common practice.
Now lets move ahead a few years now.This issue has not been addressed. Those very same girls have all left school and are now the ages of 18- 28 and trolling the bars and internet sites and guess what......the men prowling the net and/or the downtown bars and Soho and Meatpacking district in New York, in their forties - seem to know it-even if they don't know why.
The world today is not just  men"picking up 'chicks" and hoping to meet someone anymore- this is a whole different thing.The point by these men is "not to meet someone" and "not to have any kind of real connection or relationship."
Suddenly by simply shopping and advertising on online line dating sites, any guy in NY or anywhere, who can afford to take a girl for a decent dinner can get a "b j" from one of these girls.Without questions asked.
These girls are not smart,talented or quality girls..and these guys do not care. Its an impersonal dating system.The boxes men tick in their lives that they show you either personally or on the net are incorrect.None of these guys are looking for any kind of personal relationship or connection at all.Evne if thye say online "looking for long lasting relationship" they are in fact not. The point is  not to meet someone and not to have any kind of real connection or relationship.These guys are internet addicts.Their buzz is foo the quarry no he connection.An artist friend of mine said last night...'well if a guy is like that,that he gets more of a kick out of a chasing down a 20 sec blow job,and destroying the chance of a real relationship of substance....more fool him?
These "b j generation "girls from around the world  have their boring talentless suburban bank jobs,trade jobs,wall st jobs,whatever it is...And they grew up seeing how many blow jobs they could give in a week.They got their job this way,they got their apt this way.And they took any chance of any kind of relationship any decent single girl or woman has, this way as well.
And we as smart,sensitive, intelligent women ,(many of who were busy pursing careers and equality in the ninties) have to watch as scores of otherwise,and prior seemingly reasonable men  behave as internet addicted stupid short visioned shallow lunatics chasing girls in their twenties.Not only that.they are all about the book cover and not the contents,as internet dating has allowed the to shop like any supermarket.Girls are just blow up dolls to these guys online.
It makes the men   look even more   insecure than they did. And any respect for men is going.Well mine has.
Maybe these men  are not good enough in bed to cope with real girls,they have to resort to twenty five year old internet girls..or of course they are stating the size of their dick .To use my friend Hillary's words- in such instances- either  a short or small one.
This phenomomen is worse than  in Hollywood in which I lived ,which had bimbos of a different kind..at least the bimbos were smart enough to think why they were doing it..some of them.And these current men in thier forties are so stupid they think it is because the girls like them.No darlings it was their high school game,  boys.WAKE UP.And it does seem to be men in thier forties for some reason. The fifty five year olds still play the same old games and tricks they always did..but these internet prowling men are diffferent ..they put an energy into it that no  fifty two year old worth his salt does,(nor that no younger cool guy who is worth his salt does-he being limited to My Space and simple sites ).
These "blow job generation girls" had  a porn star as a role model-Paris Hilton.Gone are the days of "thinking" women and "men" and the days of sophistication-as this phenom is not sophisticated.And it is sad to see men not taking responsiblity and actually playing along to these girlsWe women did our bit for equality in the 60's,70's,80's,90's..now its men turn to have some chutzpah,have some balls and step up to the plate and rather than undo all the work we did,and actually stop it regressing. Where are the men with chutzpah and spine.They dont exist.At the end of the day it is only men who are going to suffer and humanity.More divorces.And NO - men are not different from women in terms of physical needs either.We have to stop giving that label to men and  using that conditioning as an excuse.Emotionally and mentally we are all the same.And the mind is strong.Look at Buddhist monks.
These loose girls in their twenties are tearing up bars,the internet, the party scenes .And men,especially over the age of 40 are stupid enough to think they do it as they like them..  NO guys...these girls are sluts and it was their high school competition..An artist friend of mine also pointed out an additonal reason..with the heightened divorce rate in America all these young boys and girls are looking for father figures.
Regardless It is impossible for decent girls to compete with this.Men  in their forties prowl the internet....they may write in their little boxes they are looking for women over 32,35,37 or relationships but they are not.You talk to them about or watch them....they want 20-30  year old.They don't want to connect with anyone.Faced with having to have any kind of conversation  beyond small talk they run a mile..they are petrified of emotional intimacy..and they just don't  to emotionally connect with anyone
One serial internet dater,who I met at  a party,  even had the audacity to say to me that 'girls in their twenties  peronsalities matched his" !He was 44.UM HOW IS THAT? "So girls who have zero life exerience and are not to bright even somehow match well travelled,succesful 40-48  year olds.""    WOW ! Are men that stupid? So Why is it then.?Its because these girls are total blow job giving bimbos,who dont ask questions(and thats the point,not the blow job..its the whys and wherefores) who look at Paris Hilton,porn  girl, as thier mentor,consiciously or subconsciously.
(as yes of course there are some smart academic 20something year olds and I assure you they are  dating hot guys in their own age group not hooking themselves out to older men on certain sleazy dating sites but regardless even then..they are still givng out  "bj's..as they did in high school)
We girls and women of any decency and brains and nouse dont stand a chance.I have met and seen these men who internet date in todays days and age.Most are in their forties loking for 20-28 year olds despite what they say in their online boxes) and scarily you can see a guy on one site..and then see the same guy all over again on other sites like Sugardaddy.com,www.millionairematch.com,www.jdate.com-usually a combination of two or three of those sites in LA ,NY and elsewhere. Why - because they are known for easy girls in thier twenties .I did a trial run for  a month anonymously on one internet site(not sugardaddy.com .However I thought was a joke name until a lawyer pointed it out to me for real).I got many many responses and only met two of the people on it and even cancelled the trial month run before it finished,as ti was clear to any smart woman what was going on.
One guy said to me  that'if he was serious about meeting someone or getting married he would take himself off the internet sites immedately" And I think that sums it up.These are at best ,loose sex networking sites .

And I will finish  with...decent women over the age of 34..wake up...these guys are doing this..every night.

And have you ever noticed that...these guys can waste all their time talking to strangers on line and yet actually little time with those they actually know and  like..so therefore mens capabilites of any real connection or intimacy is,thanks to their own lack of control and stupid girls in their twenties-  caput.
So thinking girls-  forget meeting anyone.There are no rare ,special men anymore.

*These guys are internet addicts too.Like alchaolics.Its not sophisticated at all. Some of them their friends dont even realise the extent of their addictions.For these guys Its every day and every night until 2am.They have to go online or leave their blackberry online and see if the next twenty year old wants to meet them.Its an addiction.And its a waste of  life.

PS: in reading this, in retrospect, it may seem  i like men over fifty- i tend not to in the " romantic " sense- i kind of like men in my own age group..

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This site is selective. I don't write about everything I do. It is after all an adjunct to my  own and primary work as artist, actress,director,producer.What ends up published on this site is that, which for some reason, I am compelled to publish.

Last night I ended up at a  small, lovely soiree at the townhouse of Mary and Frank Skillern (retired lawyer and banking CEO, but an extremely rare banking breed, in this case) on the Upper East Side.

I love this lively couple. I also attended a shindig at their estate in Southampton over summer. Again, I felt blessed,appreciative and thankful for  a New York,and world, that is fast disappearing.

The evening wound up with an extremely lithesome Mary Skillern in deep red blouse, writhing seductively in front of,  around and on the grand piano in the their own purpose built basement cabaret theater.This was in front of Paul Greenwood, Anna Bergman,John Wegorzewski,Frank Skillern,  and myself ( Anna Wilding ), who had previously picked up ,with great pain to my injury, the lovely songtress Anna Bergman and plonked her right on the piano where  she belonged.However, lets talk about what got us there.  Love.

This is the 68th performance at the small intimate theater which often serves as a trial run for select known artists , who are about to open a show in NYC. Invariably these artists go on to win rave reviews.Tonights performer will definately be no exception.

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Anna Bergman is talented ,glamorous and not scared to laugh at the foibles of humanity, which we are all blessed or cursed with. Anna Bergman also delivered a  stunningly entertaining performance that touched all by both the arrangements and delivery.This was an evening dedicated to the sweeping, blinding , biting wonderful reality of love, in song.

"Wherever Love takes Me " opens at The Metropolitan Room (34 West 22nd Street) in an exclusive two-week engagement from October 11 to 20. 

"Wherever Love Takes Me" a clever and at times dastardly humorous show, (watch out men, some of this is for the girls)  melds American and European sensibilities, in a wide variety of styles from pop to classical, and in four languages. Directed by Eric Michael Gillett and Direction and Musical arrangements  by Paul Greenwood who stylishly trilled at the keys last night.

Hopefully I will be adding photos soon.Can we all  love in a way that does merit to the songs and songwriters of these eras Or has our world changed so much.

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B Michael : Exiting the 2(x)ist Show I had to forgo the after party and head straight back towards Bryant Park Tents and the B Michael HSBC sponsored  Runway show. The show was held in the bank. As with the Luca Luca show, front of stage were friendly, professional and organized . I like to mention these things at times as smooth PR companies really make life easier for all, in such a fast paced frenetic atmosphere as Fashion Week.

A bank is not the most stylish of venues for  a runway show , but when the bank is your sponsor, and it is generous of them to do so, what can you do?  I will have to check to see how the Calvin Klein show went. It too, was held in a bank further down the street.

 
For pure class , elegance and freshness B Michael  won . There were three beautifully crafted pieces. Two yellow spring dresses  which looked as though the models were born to wear them. A stunning, curve hugging lavender  dress, surprised with its front view for  its utter and incredible simplicity and geometric lines .The dress then knocked our socks off on the back view with the most extraordinary but tasteful tapestry artwork of a clown holding an umbrella in the rain that reached from the very bottom of the dress right to  the top of the seamless zip. Beat that anyone.

 The rest of the collection was moderate yet stylish. Tailored lines and new invention on old ideas allowed room for  true classics.Classic pieces,that embodied the  freshness of spring , that will be wearable in years  to come.

It is always said of men, go and get made for yourself, at least one good suit. I would say the same to women - go and get yourself at least one good suit. B Michael's new collection of jackets, skirts and coats will stay true to style for years.B Michael did showcase some mens suits, the jackets of which, were also well tailored and cut well. I did not like the shorts that he paired them with.  A good time to remember that simple is best and that a classic is a classic When you have managed to attain that peak in your tailored lines don’t  rock the boat .

We were blessed of the dramatic appearance of Mary Wilson from the Supremes rollicking down the runway. I love artists-singers, actors-  who know stage craft. Mary Wilsons’ eyes could slay dragons if she chose too point them at you. ” Mama, they just don’t make women like that any more.”

 The show was proficient  with two to three outstanding moments of inspired and delicate inspiration. It was pity to see a slight weakness in the technical aspects of the staging of the event. A  lapse in music between tracks at times meant some of the runway lost fluidity. I think to accomplish a show in a bank  environment to great degree ,you really need to spend money and time set dressing the area.   Sadly, set up time in fashion shows is in short supply.

After Parties I did go to the B Michel after party, an elegant affair at the Bryant Park Hotel.I continued to receive a myriad of texts to attend the 2(x)ist party and others .I tried to make it down there and to every other of the four designer parties I was receiving  texts for,but the thought of walking the dog that I am dog sitting, and the thought of my bed won out.   

I thought  about it briefly.As well as doing my work,  I have been to parties from one end of the globe to the other -the bigger ,the best and the brightest.I have been to a bundle this fashion week alone.Do I really need another when Matisse needs walking and I need to sleep? Texts continued to jingle and jangle on my cell phone throughout the night, but hot men that 2(x)ist  or not, my bed was the best place to be.

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2(x)ist

Well, any time a bevy of hot men parade in their underwear,
leaving little to the imagination, deserves its own special mention.
And parade they did. In all their glory. Boom boom boom.

No pun intended, but it was a bit hard to focus on 2(x)ist when a gritty, hot, intelligent urban superman is sliding down the runway two feet in front. (Partially locked and loaded) Really they should do this more often.

I think the conscencus was that these men were hot.There were more than a few smirks in the audience. There is  a point of manliness,where the fact one,meaning he, is gay, is quite irrelevant on stage.

The highlight,other than the men  themselves, were two female acrobats getting themselves into the most extraordinary positions in the equivalent of bed sheets on the high wire, in actuality, a lowered beam.The two acrobats  were accomplished and it was obvious that the standard burlesque show using red ribbons dangling from the ceiling was not enough to suffice for these "cirque du soleil" style girls..they wanted entire sheets to flounce around in.Were they sexy? No, not at all,but was it extraordinary to watch up close? Yes. There was some whiff of some celebrity near the front of the stage sitting in a hoop or something. I didn't recognize the celebrity nor was the hoop one fraction as interesting as the two trained acrobats on the beam in front of me.

The girls exit and it's back to the show and this time long john silvers.Shortly after that it was soon back on track with the trunks  and briefs. Really, all I can say is that the underwear look perfectly alright to me.Well, I am not sure any of us really saw it to be frank. LOL!    I would say go for it, buy it ! It certainly served these men well ! I mean , these men certainly served 2(x)ist well. Boom boom boom.

NB: In terms of models - this  wasn't "ain't no bimbo, just go to the gym and add big  muscles  territory "(or silicon breasts,as the case may be with women).This is a step above. Far better than swim wear.These men were real men, from the top to the bottom. Idiosynchrisies and all.

CARAVAN

I ended up at the Metropolitan Pavilion again the next day for a Runway Show by CARAVAN supported by COTTON Incorporated.I have been to various events at the Met this past year including the interesting and lively Havana Film Festival. I think the Met does serve best as a Runway  venue rather than  a  party or event venue.

This time the PR company had fixed the substantial logistical and organization problems of the day before at 2(x)ist. I was personally apologized to,for the entry shambles the day before.Secondly,the PR company had completely rearranged the entry protocol so that guests  could check in outside and weren't sandwiched into a tiny space with no air conditioning.This  made entry go far more smoothly and efficiently. It also meant the PR staff far more friendly.It was good that they finally worked it all out and apologized where due.

Caravan Clothing was created by Claudine and Brian Gumbel. At essence it is  a clothes-filled Winnebago that makes pitstops on the streets of New York.Shopping on wheels. It has now opened its first store in Noho.The Runway show showcased the various designers,local and European that Caravan stocks.Each line had 2-4 pieces showcased.With so much variety there is bound to be something for everyone and certainly much opportunity for mixing and matching. I liked some of the items, and some I thought were a bit "cheap" looking.  I think Caravan could have shown some more formal wear. Most of the items were very casual day wear to suit a variety of moods and locations.

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It has come to my attention that I may have been  too hard on men in these posts.Let me clarify..these posts did mention bankers..not the myriad of sweet wonderful  men from other professions.

Posts on men, started in February, March 2007. So interested parties, of which there seems to be quite a few, you may wish to check those archives on this site! Scroll down right hand side of this page to view archives.I'm off to another Runway Show. LUCA LUCA today, and I have been invited backstage.